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Feelings

Take Notice

  • Feelings are Important Indicators: Think of them as your own personal treasure. They are as import as a blood test is for a diabetic to monitor a life or death situation. Living life means situations outside of our control, will happen. It's not an if or when. As you hone your management skills, the more adept you will be with your preventative care. Feelings can otherwise spiral into an unwanted event or situation. Take notice if you find yourself leaking an unplanned emotion out during a benign moment.

  • Feelings are Yours to own: Just like another person cannot physically walk for you. No one else can own your feelings. This can get confusing when someone else's actions can cause us to feel a certain way. We can't control other people and, sometimes the way someone else makes us feel, can be horrible. It is still your feeling to own and, it's telling you to take notice. 

  • Feelings should be Acknowledged: Feelings are not meant to be ignored. And they are not meant to be driving your actions. They are for you to process and understand, followed by expressing. Objectively discern when to share in an effective way or, when not to.

  • Feelings can be Complicated: It would be nice if every feeling was simple and straight forward but, this is life we are living. You can hone your skillset to have greater agility and resilience. When feelings are complicated, there are multiple feelings to identify and, layers of your own personal past life experiences, which uniquely map how you respond to an event. Two different people can have a completely different response to an identical event.

Sadness or Joy?

I'll take joy please. The tendency will be to reach for those things which immediately invoke a "pick me up". There are times however, when it imperative to address "bad" feelings in order to process and grieve. Masking instead of processing feelings, can keep you stuck in a lower emotional state. That "thing" that happened and invoked a memory and event, did happen. It's there now. If you broke your leg, you would immediately go to the ER and get help to heal your leg properly. If faced with a life event that is traumatic, embarrassing or, shameful, it gets shoved in closet to never be discussed. Your group will help hold you accountable for performing an emotional detox after you have established self care. If we are being honest with ourselves, we naturally would prefer to put off and avoid sadness.

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